Can I take you out on a date?
I'll write about a subject now that comes up surprisingly often in my work day:
Clients wanting to see me outside the club
When I first started working, I expected these questions to come up and knew they came with the job. I certainly wasn't prepared to confront them on such a regular basis! Roughly 75-80% of the men I meet during a work shift will ask me such a question, both from some that have had dances from me and even a few from some that haven't and don't intend to!
The requests vary from simple coffee or lunch dates to evenings out on the town with dinner and entertainment. Some get right to the point and want to meet me in a more discreet environment for extra services or for the same dancing services I provide, just more privately. Then there are those who are desperately looking for a relationship and want me to magically fall in love with them within minutes and run off with them... Of course, lets not forget those irresistible men that try to land a stripper for an awesome free fuck and bragging rights!
As with these requests, the intentions behind them vary just as much: men desiring a friendly, business, intimate or romantic relationship with me outside of the club.
In any respectful conversation, I am never offended by clients asking to see me outside the club for whatever reason, in fact I think of it as a compliment. I figure that a person making such a request must find me attractive and enjoyable company to spend some time with! However, what I do have a problem with are men that don't take a polite no for an answer and then spend the rest of the time trying to convince me otherwise... I tend to not stick around very long when conversations turn this way, certainly not a tactic that works, lol!
When I first started stripping I decided that I wouldn't pursue relationships with clients outside the club. Being completely new to this business, I thought it was best to avoid the delicate and complex aspects of outside the club relationships on all levels. There are many different reasons for this decision, here are a few examples:
- Friendship relationships: It's hard for me to know if this is truly your sole intention. I'm a stripper and we met at my club during my workshift which is also the only place I've gotten to know a little about you. I've danced for you in a sensual and erotic way for X number of times to which you've expressed much enjoyment and pleasure. Now I am to believe that you honestly only desire a platonic friendship outside the club.... I know that there a select few gentlemen that are sincere with such intentions but they are unfortunately vastly outnumbered by men with different intentions using a "friendship" relationship as a ruse to try and get more.
- Business relationships: I am not opposed to the idea of offering my dancing services for private shows. In fact, I am currently gathering much information of the subject to see if this is a service that would be possible for me to offer in the near future. As for intimate services other than dancing such as those offered by escorts, I am sorry to say that I do not offer such options.
- Intimate/romantic relationships: I am currently happy with my life and social circle and am not looking for such relationships. Even if things were different, I have to admit that the chances of me hooking up with a patron of my club are very unlikely.
Now, although I don't see my club's patrons outside of work, I can give you some ideas and suggestions of what I think might work for some dancers that do occasionally meet patrons outside the club.
- Buy a few dances from the stripper you're interested in. Those who do not have very little chances, girls just don't sit and chat long with clients who don't have them dance. With such little time for interaction, convincing a stripper to see you outside the club is virtually impossible. Buying a drink is better than nothing but if she hasn't had the chance to see how you are during a private dance there's no opportunity to get a better 'feel' for you other than a little conversation.
- Make your request in a discreet and polite fashion then gauge her response. If she is offended chances are obviously very unlikely, lol! If she politely declines without saying why, you can inquire a bit more but do not push the matter or try to convince her otherwise. Just state your desires and intentions and leave it at that. If she agrees, then great! Just be careful not to expect too much that the meeting will take place as planned, many agree but don't go through with it for various reasons.
- Don't expect much on a first meeting. Those few strippers that I've seen occasionally meet patrons outside the club are selective and almost always make arrangements with men they have met a few times.
- Being pushy and trying to convince never works. Every man that's made a request to see me outside the club has said something like: "I'm not like the other guys here", "It'll be different with me", "I'll treat you like a queen", "We'll do whatever you want to do", etc... We've heard this all numerous times before so it carries little weight and doesn't impress.
In my opinion, strippers just aren't the best choice when looking for any kind of relationship outside the club. Our job is to dance and take your mind off things when you come in the club looking to unwind, and we are happy to oblige ;)
Madison
Clients wanting to see me outside the club
When I first started working, I expected these questions to come up and knew they came with the job. I certainly wasn't prepared to confront them on such a regular basis! Roughly 75-80% of the men I meet during a work shift will ask me such a question, both from some that have had dances from me and even a few from some that haven't and don't intend to!
The requests vary from simple coffee or lunch dates to evenings out on the town with dinner and entertainment. Some get right to the point and want to meet me in a more discreet environment for extra services or for the same dancing services I provide, just more privately. Then there are those who are desperately looking for a relationship and want me to magically fall in love with them within minutes and run off with them... Of course, lets not forget those irresistible men that try to land a stripper for an awesome free fuck and bragging rights!
As with these requests, the intentions behind them vary just as much: men desiring a friendly, business, intimate or romantic relationship with me outside of the club.
In any respectful conversation, I am never offended by clients asking to see me outside the club for whatever reason, in fact I think of it as a compliment. I figure that a person making such a request must find me attractive and enjoyable company to spend some time with! However, what I do have a problem with are men that don't take a polite no for an answer and then spend the rest of the time trying to convince me otherwise... I tend to not stick around very long when conversations turn this way, certainly not a tactic that works, lol!
When I first started stripping I decided that I wouldn't pursue relationships with clients outside the club. Being completely new to this business, I thought it was best to avoid the delicate and complex aspects of outside the club relationships on all levels. There are many different reasons for this decision, here are a few examples:
- Friendship relationships: It's hard for me to know if this is truly your sole intention. I'm a stripper and we met at my club during my workshift which is also the only place I've gotten to know a little about you. I've danced for you in a sensual and erotic way for X number of times to which you've expressed much enjoyment and pleasure. Now I am to believe that you honestly only desire a platonic friendship outside the club.... I know that there a select few gentlemen that are sincere with such intentions but they are unfortunately vastly outnumbered by men with different intentions using a "friendship" relationship as a ruse to try and get more.
- Business relationships: I am not opposed to the idea of offering my dancing services for private shows. In fact, I am currently gathering much information of the subject to see if this is a service that would be possible for me to offer in the near future. As for intimate services other than dancing such as those offered by escorts, I am sorry to say that I do not offer such options.
- Intimate/romantic relationships: I am currently happy with my life and social circle and am not looking for such relationships. Even if things were different, I have to admit that the chances of me hooking up with a patron of my club are very unlikely.
Now, although I don't see my club's patrons outside of work, I can give you some ideas and suggestions of what I think might work for some dancers that do occasionally meet patrons outside the club.
- Buy a few dances from the stripper you're interested in. Those who do not have very little chances, girls just don't sit and chat long with clients who don't have them dance. With such little time for interaction, convincing a stripper to see you outside the club is virtually impossible. Buying a drink is better than nothing but if she hasn't had the chance to see how you are during a private dance there's no opportunity to get a better 'feel' for you other than a little conversation.
- Make your request in a discreet and polite fashion then gauge her response. If she is offended chances are obviously very unlikely, lol! If she politely declines without saying why, you can inquire a bit more but do not push the matter or try to convince her otherwise. Just state your desires and intentions and leave it at that. If she agrees, then great! Just be careful not to expect too much that the meeting will take place as planned, many agree but don't go through with it for various reasons.
- Don't expect much on a first meeting. Those few strippers that I've seen occasionally meet patrons outside the club are selective and almost always make arrangements with men they have met a few times.
- Being pushy and trying to convince never works. Every man that's made a request to see me outside the club has said something like: "I'm not like the other guys here", "It'll be different with me", "I'll treat you like a queen", "We'll do whatever you want to do", etc... We've heard this all numerous times before so it carries little weight and doesn't impress.
In my opinion, strippers just aren't the best choice when looking for any kind of relationship outside the club. Our job is to dance and take your mind off things when you come in the club looking to unwind, and we are happy to oblige ;)
Madison
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